A Lesson From a Woman's Tirade

Dearest J-Wunderful,

I really didn't want to have to put my own stupidity from "once upon a time ago" out there, but after the happenings of the past few days I just wanted to give some much needed warnings/advice to some of the ladies out there....There is this particular baby daddy out there who has some serious issues, and while I was once one of the young and dumb, I was at least able to open my eyes and get away from the jackass when I did before most of the following had ever happened to me. However, there have been a couple handful (at least) of girls who have not been so fortunate to see the light as I did, and have fallen prey to this jackass over the years.

At least I can say I am a much better person because of my mistakes, and have learned oh so much with this harsh life lesson. So I just wanted to give the ladies some points of advice when meeting someone who wants to rush into marriage just weeks after meeting them. Please bare with me, as the list may be kinda long and in no kind of special order of importance:

1) If the man you meet has children, first find out if he even takes responsibility for those children, and if not, why not.

2) Find out exactly how many children he has, and with how many different women.

3) If he's taking the bus, and has never had a car of his own...find out why before letting him drive your car, find out if he even has a license, and if not, why not.

4) Do a background check...make sure if/why he needs to register as a Sex Offender.

5) Take note on how many girlfriends he's had over the past I don't know, 10 years or so.

6) Find out how many of those girlfriends he has proposed to.

7) Find out if the ring is the same one from all those girls, and how many of the girls were with him at the same time.

8) Ask him if he likes to steal money from his mother and girlfriends, oh and jobs too while you're at it.

9) While you're at the job question, ask how many of those he's actually had, and how long he's kept one.

10) Find out if he's behind on his child support, and if he even believes he should be paying for his kids.

11) Find out just how many times he's actually been with a girl long enough to marry them, and if so, has the divorce been legally finalized before marrying him yourself.

12) Find out just how many times he's been in jail and for what reasons.

13) Know the REAL reason for the ankle bracelet tracker.

14) If he just broke up with his ex-girlfriend right when he got with you, make sure he's not still living with her when you do get married after being with him for just a couple months, and when you know that he is still living with her DON'T marry him still!

15) Even if you knew him from 20 years ago from high school, him being the SAME person is NOT a good thing all the time!

16) Make sure of how many STD's he's had over his sexual years.

17) Ask him what's the oldest age any of his girlfriends has been up to and including his own age of 37, and if they were all recent high school graduates, then hmmm, that might answer question #4 above.

18) When he's told every one of his girlfriends that he will "change" after cheating on them, don't think you have some special kind of ass that will make him "change" all of a sudden.

19) Find out just how many places he's lived that were actually his own, and if he paid any of the bills. Oh, and do a credit check while you're at that too.

20) When probably the smartest, most knowing ex tells you the real truth about him, BELIEVE IT AND RUN!!!!!

21) Please don't try to be Step-mom of the year to his kids (that he does occasionally see/knows about) because you probably won't be around that long for them to get to know.

22) Please don't say you are not an idiot for being with/marrying someone with all of the above, because anyone in their right mind even not knowing this jackass will know that you are in fact an IDIOT!!

I am sure I have missed some other points, but I'm sure this is enough for now, although it just didn't seem to be enough for this guy's latest victim. Just warn your readers not to fall for this type of jackass for their own good. PLEASE!!!

Regards,
No longer the idiot, but laughing at the latest one!